Songs of Lost Love

Everyone’s experienced it. Well, at least I think so. 

When you’re 16 you think you’re the only person in the world to ever go through it but in reality, there are millions of people in that very same position. It doesn’t make it any easier to think of things that way, in fact, I’ve noticed that we’d much rather victimise ourselves than really put our situation into perspective. It seems that misery really does love company. In a strange sadistic sort of way, it almost feels good to sit and wallow in your own self-pity whilst listening to music with lyrics that sound like the artist wrote it specifically for you. 

Yes, it feels like your heart is literally breaking because it hurts so much. Yes, it feels like you’ll never ever be happy again. Yes, at that moment in time, you feel like you will never be able to love someone else the way you love this person and if you can’t have them, you’ll just have to spend the rest of your life alone and learn how to reproduce asexually. So basically, you feel like a piece of dog do-do, but you will not put on some happy music and put a smile on your face. People love to feel sorry for themselves and that’s just how it is.

The pain of rejection is sharp and effective. The emotion itself is confusing. It makes you feel so many other things: insecurity, worthlessness, sadness. You don’t understand why that person just doesn’t feel the same way about you. Why can’t they see in you what you see in them? Why can’t they feel that you’ve got so much to give? Whether it's a break-up or unrequited love, it doesn't hurt any less. At the end of the day, the fact of the matter is, you can’t force people to love you back, and that sucks.

So I’ve compiled a playlist of my favourite “I’m going to lie on my bed with my headphones in and cry” songs. 

In no particular order:

Be Mine - Robyn

"And I am helpless sometimes, wishing's just no good. 'Cause you don't see me like I wish you would..."

If you don't feel like tearing up even a little after watching this, you are truly heartless.

Hurricane Drunk - Florence and the Machine

"I hope that you see me 'cause I'm staring at you. But when you look over you look right through. Then you lean and kiss her on the head, and I've never felt so alive...and so dead."

Her voice is so powerful and absolutely beautiful. I love this song because it's honest and a hurricane is the perfect metaphor.

Unrequited Love - Lykke Li

"Once again it's happening. All my love is unrequited."

So tragically beautiful. 

What Can I Do - The Corrs

"What can I do to make you love me? What can I do to make you care? What can I say to make you feel this? What can I do to get you there?"

One of my favourite songs by them. Simple yet effective.

Dancing On My Own - Robyn

"I'm in the corner watching you kiss her. I'm right over here, why can't you see me? I'm giving it my all but I'm not the girl you're taking home..."

I don't know what's more epic - the song or her dance moves?

Someone Like You - Adele

"Never mind I'll find someone like you. I wish nothing but the best for you too."

Wow.

Fire Bomb - Rihanna

"I just wanna set you on fire so I won't have to burn alone, then you'll, then you'll know where I'm coming from..."

Such a dark sinister song, but it's empowering in a way. If I'm going down, you're going down too.

Nicest Thing - Kate Nash

"I wish that you needed me. I wish you knew that when I said two sugars, actually I meant three"

Heartbreaking and honest. One of those songs that describes exactly how you feel.

I'll Kill Her - Soko

"I thought it was a love story, but you're not ready for that..."

Funny & bitchy; not literal but kind of how you feel. The perfect combination.

Marvin's Room - Drake

"I'm just sayin', you could do better..."

Don't tell me you've never wanted to drunk dial someone and say this.

A Drop In The Ocean - Ron Pope

"It's like wishing for rain as I stand in the desert but I'm holding you closer than most, 'cause you are my heaven"

His voice is like water.

Never Ever - All Saints

"Conversations, hesitations in my mind. You got my conscience asking questions that I can't find. I'm not crazy, I'm sure I ain't done nothing wrong..."

Oh the nineties, what wonderful melodrama.

Running Away - Hoobastank

"Cause I did enough to show you that I was willing to give and sacrifice. I was the one who was lifting you up when you thought your life had had enough"

This song will never get old.

Try Sleeping With A Broken Heart - Alicia Keys

"Have you ever tried sleeping with a broken heart? Well you could try sleeping in my bed."

One of my favourite songs by her. It gives me goosebumps.

Vermillion Pt. 2 - Slipknot

"She is everything to me, the unrequited dream"

This song may have a much deeper meaning, but for me, it's about lost/unattainable love.

No One's Gonna Love You - Cee-Lo (Band of Horses cover)

"No one's gonna love you more than I do"

It might not really be particularly about heartbreak, but that moment you realise how much you love someone when things are falling apart is so distinct.

Love Has Left Your Eye - Titiyo

"Love has left your eye, no matter how we try baby everything will die."

Something you never want to admit or acknowledge, but you know deep inside that it's true.

Samson - Regina Spektor

"You are my sweetest downfall, I loved you first, I loved you first..."

I prefer this version to the video version but both are just as chilling. I feel like she's speaking to my heart. I love you Regina.

And there you have it. There are obviously so many more songs and I'm sure everyone has their own favourites but these are some of mine. Please feel free to share your "sad moment" songs with me.